stop. pause. breathe. before you engage your mouth, engage your mind and heart. before you stoke your hating rage stoke your memory with what makes for actual identity before you deploy the missiles of your words like patriot or scud, deploy caution-- first, think. question. reflect. do you want revenge? do you want an I-told-you-so moment? does more hatred satisfy hate? will payback gratify your soul? the "counter" always becomes what it countered should the generation of today be responsible for the atrocities of their parents--grandparents, great-great, etc.? first, pray. suspend judgment--rethink the narrative no one wins a prize by gloating. no one is a hero by murder. no one becomes more human by dehumanizing anyone.